My Story: I am a married woman. I have been married only a few years. But my problem is that I am not in love with my husband at all. Actually, I am playing a marriage which has everything except love. It is the same with my husband. They don’t care about me. This is also one of the reasons why I entered into a relationship with my tenant. I am having an affair with my tenant. We both were having a good time with each other that suddenly my mother-in-law came to know about our illicit relationship.
In fact, they got suspicious of me when I stopped visiting my in-laws house altogether. The thing is that I live in a different city with my husband. My parents-in-law do not live with us. I had stopped going to my in-laws house for a long time but my husband used to visit his parents every weekend. My mother-in-law asked me about this many times but I used to avoid her every time by making some excuse or the other. Recently it so happened that my mother-in-law suddenly came to visit me.
They saw me having an affair with my tenant. During this I could not say anything to him. He hasn’t even said anything to me yet. But his silence scares me a lot. I don’t know what she will do with me. I don’t want this marriage to end. This is because my affair was only to fill the void in my life which my husband could not fill even if he wanted to.
How distressing this whole situation is for you. It’s only been a few days since your mother-in-law found out about your affair with the tenant. He hasn’t said anything to you yet. You also do not want your marriage to end, but you do not understand what to do next?
It seems to me from your words that you are still confused about many things. This is because you are still not able to take any right decision for yourself. You don’t understand what you want from your life. You are only worried about the fact that your mother-in-law knows everything about you.
Know from mother-in-law what she saw
As you said you don’t want to break your marriage. In such a situation, first of all I want to ask you whether it is really so. If yes, then first try to talk to your mother-in-law. Talking to him in conversation, what did he see? Your mother-in-law may be keeping quiet simply because she is uncomfortable bringing up the situation.
Talk to them about whatever happened. Be honest with them. Tell them that you are not happy in your marriage. Also explain to them that your intention was not to hurt anyone. You are very sorry for whatever happened.
she would have told everything to your husband by now
It is very important for you to talk to your mother-in-law. This is also because it can help you in making the right decisions about life. If she had something to tell your husband, she would have told by now. He is clearly concerned about your marriage.
But during this time you have to make a decision whether you still want to continue the relationship with your tenant or not. Even though this relationship was meant to keep you happy, but now things have changed a lot.
separation is not wrong
If you feel that you cannot love your husband even if you want to, be honest with yourself. You don’t need to be in a position where you’re just pushing yourself to stay afloat. It is better to part ways with the things that are not working for you. On the other hand, if you want to give another chance to your relationship, then you will have to work a lot on your married life.
Take time to process your feelings. Highlight your needs. Build trust and rapport with your husband. Make them realize how much you need them. Do not shy away from asking your mother-in-law for help in all this. He has seen more world than you. She knows how to handle things. My Story: My wife insisted on making a prenuptial agreement, which hardly anyone has done.