First of all, you need to be careful and make sure that the details of your personal life can’t be used to harm you. It’s helpful to have a basic list of some private matters you should not tell others. If you find it difficult to make your list, this article might come in useful.
Nevertheless, if you can’t, you could at least try not to talk about them that often. Or certainly, try not share them with random people.
Your secrets and unpleasant facts you know about other people.
First and foremost, talking or gasping about others makes you look bad in the eyes of society (or at least in the eyes of those who don’t like sticking their noses in other people’s business). What is more, this way you show to the world that you don’t feel confident. And probably you are trying to acknowledge yourself by undermining someone else’s value. On the top of that, giving negative information goes along with a lot of negative energy that could have a bad influence on you or the people you are talking to. Therefore, it’s wiser to keep such details to yourself as they won’t have a positive effect on anyone.
Your aims for the future
Being proud of your achievements is OK. Being satisfied with yourself and your successes is fine. Actually, you might think this strange, but there are scientific proofs that it is much more possible to achieve your long-term goals if you keep them to yourself. Studies prove that sharing goals with others can reduce the possibility that we’ll have them come true. When we say about our plans to others we get the feeling that we’ve already fulfilled them; it tricks the brain into believing we’ve achieved something we haven’t. We subconsciously think that we are on the verge of completing a goal, which is not true. This fake feeling of effort then reduces our impulse to start working towards success.
Our beliefs and preferences
Some people are religious, others are keen on sports and others – practice different types of meditation. It’s not that we shouldn’t talk about it, but very often people go as far as trying to impose their beliefs on others. If you do this, you might well turn into one of those intolerant people who only view the world from their perspective. And hardly anyone listens to them or becomes friends with them.