I came closer to my sister-in-law because my wife could not have children

New Delhi I am a married person. I have been married for 10 years. But my problem is that we haven’t had any kids yet. When I came to know that my wife could never become a mother, I was very upset. However, I do not want to hide from you, during this time I […]
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I came closer to my sister-in-law because my wife could not have children


New Delhi I am a married person. I have been married for 10 years. But my problem is that we haven’t had any kids yet. When I came to know that my wife could never become a mother, I was very upset.

However, I do not want to hide from you, during this time I started growing closer to my sister-in-law. I have been in a relationship with my sister-in-law for the past several years. I love her a lot. She wants me too. My wife also knows about our relationship.

But the problem is that now she is going to get married. My wife’s parents have fixed her relationship elsewhere. I can’t live without him. She also wants to be with me.

I also talked to his family members about this, but they are not agreeing to our marriage. My wife also wants me to marry her. But his family members are adamant on their insistence. So I don’t know what to do? (All photos are indicative, we keep their identity a secret in the stories shared by the users)

Counseling Psychologist and Psychotherapist Dr Anamika Papdiwal, Founder of Psychological Counseling Center in Jaipur and Executive Member of All India Jain Doctors Forum, says that the triangle of relationship creates a lot of difficulties after a time. This is because no one is able to remain completely happy and satisfied in this type of bondage.

The same is true in your case as well. You are talking about keeping your wife as well as sister-in-law with you. In such a situation, it is most important that whatever decision you make for yourself, do it very thoughtfully and with a promise to fulfill for life.

Wife’s parents are not wrong

As you mentioned that your wife doesn’t mind you having an affair with her sister. But his family members are not agreeing to this relationship. However, in such a situation, I will tell you that their parents are absolutely right in their place. This is because no parent would want their other daughter’s house to be broken because of one of their daughters.

This is because till now both of you were only in a relationship, but when you get married tomorrow, then your responsibility towards sister-in-law will also increase. In such a situation, not only will you stop paying attention to your wife, but your responsibilities towards her will also start decreasing, which no parent can tolerate. My Story: I’m 29, I’m Not Getting Married: It’s Very Embarrassing

If this happened to you then…

Listening to your words, I understand so much that your wife has accepted the relationship of both of you very compulsively, the biggest reason because she can never become a mother. But the thing to think about is that if the same problem was with you instead of your wife, then would you be able to accept someone’s relationship with your wife. Maybe not.

That is why it is important that the picture should be viewed from both sides. As far as the child is concerned, both of you can also adopt a child, which is not difficult at all in today’s time. My Story: My Wife Is Pregnant, But This Baby Isn’t Mine

Need help to fix relationship

You might be thinking that all this was going on for even 10 years, so what is the difficulty now. But the truth is that difficulties come only after being tied in a relationship. In such a situation, it becomes very important that you, your wife and sister-in-law all three consult a professional psychologist.

This counseling is also very important for the sister-in-law to be involved in life with someone else so that their past life does not affect their future married life. At the same time, both you and your wife can maintain your relationship honestly.