Can a four-word text really revive almost any dead number? Well, read and find out! Because it’s so annoying when you meet a girl that you really really like and it seems super on. You’re texting back and forth and then, wham, out of the blue, she doesn’t text you back. You probably start over-analyzing your last text and second-guessing yourself and try not to freak out and hopefully you don’t send a lame text like “did I say something wrong?”Further sealing your fate of being forever ghosted.
Read to the very end and I’ll give you three-step system to get her to reply back and the forward text that you send to revive even the most dead number. Berkeley psychologist found that receiving a text message makes people feel more connected and elevates their mood. No shock there but this might surprise you; that the open rate of SMS messages is 99%, yet the reply back rate is only 45%. Which is why I’m first gonna give you three crucial tips that you need to start implementing right now, anytime you don’t get a reply back.
Is don’t stress out about it. So many guys freak out because they have only one option.They’re putting so much importance on this one girl that they’re texting and that if she doesn’t reply back, then they’re really affected by that. So instead, I recommend have at least five, if not even ten girls that you’re texting that might seem like a lot. But remember, it doesn’t mean you’re dating all of these girls, these are just girls that you’re interested in and that you’re trying to get a date with.
You might only get dates with like three or four of them but the point is if one doesn’t reply back, you still have a few other options. And not only that but make sure you have an interesting lifestyle, a cool lifestyle at least have a job and other things that you’re focusing on so that getting a date with this one girl or any of these girls that you’re texting isn’t the most important thing in your life.
Make sure to have other things that are more important than girls. Now, it’s one thing if she’s your wife or a long-term relationship but I’m talking about girls that you’ve just met, that maybe you haven’t even gone on a real date with and just the fact that you’re worrying so much about it makes you needy even if she doesn’t see that you’re pacing around your apartment, waiting for her to text you back. She doesn’t see that needy behavior but mentally you’re still putting her on a pedestal. You’re becoming more and more needy about this particular girl and when you eventually do, either write back to her, you might end up sending a really needy text or when you finally end up seeing her, you’ve put so much investment and mental energy towards her that you might end up being really needy and push her away.
Because the fact is she might just be busy, maybe she’s on in a secluded area and she doesn’t have cell reception or maybe she saw your text and she had every intention to text you back but she just didn’t feel like it at that exact moment and then just forgot about it. Remember, women base a lot of what they do based on how they feel in that moment so she may not feel like texting you back, so what? Try again and maybe next time she’ll feel like texting you back, which brings me to the next point.
Don’t text back immediately. What happens with most guys is they’re texting back and forth, maybe every 5 or 10 minutes. It’s going great, it seems super on, a guy is getting super excited, then girl just starts doing something else, she gets busy or she doesn’t have cell service and the guy starts freaking out, 30 minutes have gone by, an hour has gone by so he texts her; “hey, are you busy?” And 30, 40, maybe an hour to goes by, no reply and he texts; “okay, cool” Which obviously means it’s not cool and that he’s a little bit affected by it.
Instead, I don’t even do a lot of back and forth texting, I just use texting to set up the date, not to get to know each other and have all this banter back and forth that just uses a lot of time. And you should have other things going on in your life like I said before instead of just texting girls all day long. So, I recommend you send the text and you forget about it. You put your phone on silent and then you check it when you’re free.
Go about your day, do other things beyond your mission and purpose and then when you’re bored and relaxing, then you check your texts and that will really help you from ever over texting her. And then, if you don’t get a text back just wait a day or two and send another text. And I’ll talk about those exact texts that you could send just a second and a good rule of thumb is; if you send a text and you don’t get a reply back, then you wait a day or two to text her.
Again, don’t keep texting her and asking her what’s wrong. Now, I understand if it’s your long-term girlfriend, that’s a little bit different but again we’re talking about new girls in your life here. They should not be that important and if you catch yourself stressing about some new girl in your life, do other things. Occupy your mind and one of the best things is get out there and meet more women so you have more options.
But just because she didn’t text you back one time, don’t give up and delete her number. And balance is key here. Just because she didn’t reply back, one time doesn’t mean all is lost. Remember 45% of the time, people don’t reply back so you need to be persistent but without sending her a bunch of text and coming off as needy.
Tip #3 —
Is to use social media to your advantage. Because if you also have her Facebook, Instagram or Snapchat, then she can see that you live an interesting life. That you’re traveling or that you’re speaking on stage or that you’re hanging out with a group of friends or she might even see that you’re with other women, that you’re going on dates and hanging out with other girls, which can make her more interested. And it doesn’t seem like you’re just sitting at home, waiting for her to reply back.
You’re living your life which you should be. Plus, maybe she started dating somebody else and she’s not really as interested in you anymore because of her new relationship but that relationship might only last a few weeks or even a few months and if she keeps seeing your lifestyle, she keep seeing your pictures and your posts then you’re on her radar and she might just randomly text you back when she’s single again. and it’s like “keeps the fire still warm.” It’s not a full blazing fire anymore but you just need to stir it a little bit and you can easily reignite it.
Alright now, we need to get her to reply back so here are three simple tips.
STEP #1, remember it doesn’t mean anything, just wait a day or two and then send another text. That next text shouldn’t be like what happen to you or anything like that it should just be something simple, something short and something random it could be a fun question like “if we could travel anywhere in the world where would we go?” By the way, I like the word “we” instead of “you” because it creates a sense of togetherness or send her a random picture because remember, pictures speak a thousand words. It can be a meme that somebody sent you. It can be a cute animal that you saw or found off the internet.
Because women love cute animals.It could be maybe you’re walking down the street and you saw a bum with a funny sign. You can send her a picture of that or anything else that’s interesting, funny or exciting that has happened to you that day or maybe that week or you can try a funny role play text like “hey I’m bored let’s go rob a bank.” I’ve used that many times and it definitely gets a reply just anything kind of fun, not too serious that just gets the conversation going again so that you can go for a date and meet up with her. Now, let’s say, she doesn’t reply back. Now, you still might not be in damage control yet, maybe she’s super busy. Maybe, she’s out and she doesn’t have a good cell service, maybe she lost her phone. Maybe, maybe, maybe. But there’s also of course a chance that she’s just not that interested and there’s only one way to really find out and that’s will be to carry out step #2.
Step #2 — Wait two to four days so that you don’t seem too needy or eager and then send a bait text. A bait text is just a text that baits her to reply back something like “I think you have a confession to make…” Now, she’s probably gonna want to know what’s that confession is.
So she’ll probably write back and ask what is it and one option is to say “I think you like me” and if she definitely doesn’t love you or even like you then she’ll probably let you know and at least now you can move on or you can go more the role-playing route and say “I think I saw you last night peering through my bedroom window trying to sneak a peek, you’re so bad.” It’s kind of funny kind of gamy but if she laughs, if she’s into it, that’s great, you’re back on track. Or if she says “definitely not” then maybe she’s not so interested and you might want to cut your loss. Another example of a bait text is “I just realized what animal you remind me of” and she asks “what animal?” then send her a picture of a really cute animal.
Now, if that doesn’t work, then you’re definitely in damage control. Meaning, you know there’s obviously a good chance she’s just not interested at all but it doesn’t really hurt to send one more text. Now, if she still doesn’t reply back, then you can still do a last-ditch effort if you so wish which is
Step #3 — Wait four to six or seven days and send her these four words: “are you still alive?” Just “are you still alive?” You’ll be surprised at how often you will get a reply back. Oftentimes, it’s just a reply like “yep” which means to delete that number, don’t text her back anymore and of course, if she doesn’t reply back, then just delete the number.
But if she answers with “oh my god, I’ve been so busy” or “I lost my phone who is this?” then, there’s still a chance. Don’t over text her but send her some more fun playful text because that will boost the attraction. She’ll see that you’re a fun guy which means she’s more likely to meet up with you because she knows you’ll be fun in person.