ZinThere are some words in Daagi that never leave you. They stay with you through defeat, victory, uncertainty and success. For me, these were the words spoken by my father.
Whenever I was struggling with a challenge, doubting my abilities, or facing something that seemed impossible, my father’s answer was always the same. He would look me in the eye with confidence and say, “I believe in you” and “You can do this.” To the outside world these might seem like common words, but for me they were no less than magic. He had the power to transform fear into courage and hesitation into firm resolve. Don’t know how, after hearing those words even things that seemed impossible started seeming possible.
As I grew up, I realized that fathers often play the least appreciated role in our lives. They silently carry burdens that their children may never fully understand. They face struggles, disappointments, financial constraints, and personal sacrifices, yet always appear smiling and strong in front of their families.
They rarely talk about their pain. Instead, they pay attention to our dreams. Day after day, year after year, they sacrifice their comforts. So that their children can get the opportunities which they never got. They become our protectors, guides, teachers and silent cheerleaders. Their love is often expressed not through big words, but through actions, sacrifices, and being together.
My father was also like this.
Apart from boosting my morale, he gave me values that guide me in every decision I take. He taught me that success should never lead to pride. He often used to say, “The trees which bear fruits always have their branches bent.” This was his way of reminding me that true success always comes with humility.
He taught me to be a giver and not a taker. He taught me that no matter what the circumstances, one should work with honesty and truthfulness. Most importantly, he taught me to never compromise with honor.
He used to say, “Never compromise your principles for your own benefit.” And “Never let anyone take away your respect. The day you put your respect at stake for short-term gain, you become hollow from within.”
This lesson is like a compass showing direction in my life. Whenever I have to take difficult decisions, I often remember his words. Even after he left this world, his words continue to guide me.
This Father’s Day is different for me because my father is no longer physically with me. They are in heaven now. Yet, in many ways they never went away. His teachings are reflected in my decisions, his values are a part of my personality and his faith in me always gives me courage.
He also contributes to my every success. Whatever I have achieved is built on the foundation he helped me build. Whatever I am today, she is the strongest support behind it. I miss them so much. Sometimes I wish I could hear his voice again, get advice from him, or just sit with him and tell him about my life’s journey.
But one thing I know for sure is that a father’s legacy is not measured by the number of years he spent with us. It is measured by the values and lives they shape. Papa, wherever you are, I hope I made you proud. And to all the fathers—whether they are with us or watching from above—thank you very much for your sacrifice, your courage, your wisdom, and your unwavering faith in us.
Sometimes, a child’s entire future hinges on just two simple words:
“You can do it.”
(Author Adil Azmi is a communication strategist and columnist. He has experience in governance, media and corporate leadership. He writes on leadership, public policy and social issues.)
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