Villain ‘Toliamri’ in the grammar of love! Is this new trend in the relationship actually ominous?

The relational grammar is quite complex. Even more complex is the Gen-G dating vocabulary. Sometimes polyamory, sometimes or situationship. It is in the chemistry of that relationship that ‘Toliamri’ is getting its wings. The word is quite cheeky. There is also a touch of nobility. But what is actually inside this shiny wrapper? No, nothing else. This is the Zen-G version of the word ‘deceit’. Trying to make it bearable with a new name.

What is this toliamory?

Simply put, toliamary is the tacit acceptance of a partner’s extramarital affair. Yes, you heard me right. Here one knows that the man of his soul is having an affair with someone else. Yet he does not protest. Instead, he pretends not to see. This pattern of relationship has always existed in the society. But now it is tied to a cheeky word. Where the main aim is to encourage cheating in the name of ‘love’ or ‘family maintenance’.

Polyamory vs. Tliamory

Many people confuse it with polyamory. But there is a stark difference between the two. In polyamory there is transparency between partners. There multiple relationships are formed with the consent of all. The place for trust and negotiation is very clear there. But Toliamory stands on dishonesty. Here the wrongdoing of one is forced to bear by the other. This is not progressive thinking. Rather it multiplies the pain of the partner. There is more to it than consent to the grief of passive acceptance.

Infidelity actually shakes the foundation of a relationship. This is a strange attempt to glorify betrayal. Where the cheated person is made to believe that forgiveness is the ultimate religion. But in reality it is just a name of dishonor and dishonour. At the crossroads of modernity, this trend has finally turned the sanctity of the relationship into dust.

If the quality of the product is poor then the branding cannot last long. Toliamari is just like that. Whatever you call disloyalty or infidelity, it ultimately drives the last nail into a relationship. This ‘trend’ is actually an ominous signal in the house of love standing on faith.