Umrah dream: I’m ready, my husband isn’t

Assalamualaikum. I need help. I want to go for Umrah, but my husband has no interest in it. It has been 10 years since our marriage and we have not gone on any international trip. We have only been to Murree three times, and even there I always contributed financially. Once we went to Karachi and the entire trip was sponsored by me because it was for a close wedding.

I really, really want to go for Umrah. I even offered to finance the whole trip, which costs around 11–12 lakh rupees, and he would only contribute 2.5 lakh. But he still isn’t interested. I am the only one checking bookings, visas, passports, contacting agents, and looking for economical packages. He is not contributing at all (although he is very active on his mobile, but when it comes to Umrah, he expects me to do everything). His point of view is that since he has never traveled internationally, I should manage everything.

He always likes to be pampered like a child, which is becoming more and more frustrating for me. Yes, he is available for criticism and creating panic. He wants me to spend this money on the house or on upgrading a car. I have always done that in the past, but this time I don’t want to.

Now I am thinking I should go alone. Is it possible to go for Umrah without a mhram? Any reliable sources? I have a 7-year-old child, and I really want to take him, but in these circumstances it doesn’t seem appropriate.

Please suggest the best possible solution. My husband is like this and will remain like this. If I leave it on him, I may never get the chance to go. I need a solution.

Solutions; Ria Gur

I perform Umrah every year, Alhamdulillah, without any mahram.

But it is on a transit visa through Saudi Airlines.

So if you can manage a good group of women, it is doable. It will be much more rewarding as well. Look for someone reliable.

Do not take your son; he is still young and not easy to manage there. It would be better to leave him with his father.

Muhammad Umar

From most scholars I have learned that having a mahram is necessary for travel, but for Umrah and Hajj it is not required.

However, I would suggest that you take your brother or father with you. And if that is not possible, then at least go with your sister or any other female companion from your family if your husband is not willing to go with you.

In my opinion, you should consider this option. If your intention is sincere, Allah Almighty will make things easy for you.

I recently went with my mother, grandmother, and aunt.

Syed Rizwanullah

A father, brother, or son is preferred. However, you can also go alone, but it will not be very easy.

Ask Allah for guidance for your husband in Tahajjud and pray for his humanity as well. Give charity (Sadaqah and Khairat) daily in the morning and after Maghrib.

If you want to do it alone, then consider going for Hajj, as it is obligatory upon you based on the financial situation you mentioned. Since you can afford it, you should perform Hajj.

Muhammad Hassan

Mashallah, you are making efforts for a holy cause.

Yes, it is true that you can go alone. However, it is preferable that you go with your brother or father as well. I went for Umrah with my parents, and I felt that having a male companion is important for a female to help manage many things like luggage, bookings, and arranging Ziyarat and other matters.

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