While raising children, almost every parent has to face their stubborn attitude (Stubborn Behavior). Sometimes lying on the ground for toys, sometimes refusing to eat food and sometimes crying over not getting a mobile phone. In such situations, parents often lose their temper and make mistakes like shouting at their children or raising their hands. According to child psychologists, anger or beating instead of eliminating the child’s stubbornness makes him more rebellious and aggressive.
If you want to change this stubborn habit of your child without getting angry and without taking stress, then these 4 tried and tested parenting tricks Will prove to be very helpful for you:
Stubborn children want their own will and control. When you give them a direct order like “let’s drink milk immediately” or “study right now”, their first natural reaction is to say ‘no’.
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Trick: Always offer 2 limited options instead of giving the child orders. For example—”Will you drink milk in the yellow cup or the blue cup?” Or “Would you rather do math homework or drawing first?”.
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Benefit: This makes the child feel that he has taken the decision himself and he accepts your request without any argument or insistence.
Children often become more stubborn when they feel that no one is understanding their words or feelings.
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Trick: When the child is adamant on something, instead of scolding him immediately, sit at his eye-level. Say in a calm voice, “I understand that you would very much like to have this toy, but we cannot buy it today.”
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Benefit: When the child realizes that his parents are listening to him and appreciating his feelings, his anger and defensive attitude automatically subsides.
Stubborn children often understand that crying or shouting makes their parents upset and accede to their demands.
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Trick: When the child is stubbornly throwing a tantrum, avoid arguing, explaining or showing anger at that time. Just stand nearby with a calm and neutral face so she feels safe. When his crying and anger subsides completely, then hug him lovingly and explain to him the difference between right and wrong.
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Benefit: This sends a clear message to the child that he cannot get any of his unreasonable demands fulfilled on the basis of stubbornness or anger.
Often parents immediately scold the child for his mistakes and stubbornness, but do not pay attention when he does some good work or agrees without being asked.
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Trick: Whenever the child eats food on time without insisting, collects his toys or obeys you, immediately praise him openly. You can say – “You showed great wisdom today, I am proud of you”.
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Benefit: Children love to receive positive attention from their parents. When they are praised for good behavior, they unconsciously give up their stubbornness and start repeating good habits.