'Red Flag', 'Green Flag' are already quite popular terms in the dictionary of love. If the opposite person's behavior seems uncomfortable, or if it seems that it will become more difficult to be with them in the future, then such a person is marked as a 'red flag' from the beginning. The behavior of the other person is positive, the person who truly loves and loves, is simply a 'green flag' (Relationship Tips).
But recently a strange problem has been seen. People can flag their partner as 'red' or 'green' flags by looking at very little in a romantic relationship. He is easily brought to justice. But everyone knows that every person behaves differently depending on the environment. True love may be lost as a result of 'red flag' cancellation without proper understanding.
So relationship experts say, before judging others, you need to understand your criteria right? Ask yourself these 5 questions to understand whether the 'green flag' is being labeled as 'red' in haste.
1. Is it a matter of personal preference, or is it a matter of values?
Let's say someone talks too loudly, wears strange clothes, which you don't like. These are personal dislikes. This does not make a person a 'red flag'. But lying, disrespecting or disregarding the wishes of others is actually a problem of values. If this is the case, it can be called a red flag.
2. A one-time event, or the same behavior over and over again?
In the head of anger or emotions, people often behave in such a way that they may not even forget that time. So it is not right to make a decision based on an isolated incident. Instead, notice whether the same behavior is occurring regularly.
3. Find the cause of your discomfort
Because of our own past experiences, fears or insecurities, we are often quick to judge the opposite person. Think about why a certain behavior of your partner makes you uncomfortable. Talk openly with the other person if necessary.
4. What is his reaction when expressing discomfort?
It's a positive sign if the other person listens patiently when you say you're not feeling well, explains your behavior or tries to change it if necessary. But mocking your feelings, blaming yourself or deliberately continuing the same behavior are really 'red flags'!
5. How do you feel when you are with him?
If a small habit is annoying but overall you feel safe and comfortable, give the relationship a new chance. But if the reasons for discomfort become much bigger than love, then it is better to leave such a relationship.