Are you okay? How to tell that you are ‘not well’, follow these 3 steps of therapy to tell easily

Sometimes it happens with all of us that the mind becomes very heavy. The heart remains sad, everything does not seem right, but still the person in front asks – how are you? It becomes very difficult to answer this question. What if you want to tell the truth, ‘I’m not okay’, but don’t feel like having a deep conversation? Or if you want to talk, how to start? Or what to say to a stranger? So that the next time someone asks you this question, you can answer comfortably, honestly and as per your convenience.

First of all, when you don’t want to talk to friends or family, but want to tell the truth. Many times, close people care about you a lot and ask from their heart. But at that moment you feel that you don’t have the courage or desire to talk about it right now. In such a situation, you can clearly express your limits while respecting their feelings. Here are some suggestions that you can incorporate into your conversation.

Follow these steps

1. In a simple and loving way you can say: Thank you very much for asking. To be honest, I am not feeling well right now, but I don’t want to talk about it right now. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for taking so much care of me. Things are a bit difficult right now, but I don’t want to discuss it right now. Most good people understand your point and do not put pressure on you. They just support you, without asking anything forcefully.

2. When you want to talk openly with friends or family: Sometimes you feel like telling everything to someone close to you, but do not understand how to start. In such a situation, ‘How are you?’ This question can become a good opportunity. You just express your feelings honestly and ask if he would like to hear it. Some sweet and direct ways: ‘Thank you for asking so lovingly. To tell you the truth, I have been going through a very difficult time for the last few days. Can I share my thoughts with you? I don’t have a straight answer to this question right now. Would you like to sit and talk with me for a while? People who truly love you will stand by you. One should not be shy at all in showing one’s weakness. Many times the shoulder of a loved one provides great strength.

3. When an unknown person (like a shopkeeper, cab driver, coffee vendor) asks – How are you? There is no need to even talk here, and I don’t feel like lying and saying ‘I am fine’. In such a situation, you can respond in a light-hearted manner, with a little joke or humor. This neither bothers the other person, nor do you have to face many questions. Some funny and honest answers: ‘Just like that, I’m falling and falling like the cat on the motivational poster!’ Or if it is not bad then it is not good either… just somehow the day is passing. These short answers are true, but do not go very deep. The other person also remains happy and the matter does not progress further.

What to do if you are really worried?

If your mind is very heavy, you are finding it difficult to do daily work, or your sleep and eating have gone awry, then there is no need to bear everything alone. First of all, talk to a very trusted friend or family member. If your mood still does not ease, then meet a good mental health expert (therapist or counselor). Nowadays online therapy is also very easy and good.