I had sex with my husband's best friend, now I feel guilty, what should I do?

By News Update On Sep 25, 2024

Question: I have been married for four years and like every couple, my husband and I fight over petty things. For the past six months we have been feeling distant from each other and our relationship has become hopeless. Meanwhile I started liking my husband's best friend and we slowly became good friends, came close to each other, he is single. A few days ago we got intimate and had sex. Now both of us are feeling very guilty. Should I tell this to my husband? Can confession be the solution? I really love my husband and don't want to lose him. His best friend also wants to forget our relationship and move on in life. What should I do? Help me!

What do the experts say?

Answer: Some partners take time to develop emotional attachment, especially in arranged marriages. I understand you are in a tough situation right now. Every relationship has certain limitations. Your husband did not connect with you emotionally, so you started feeling lonely and became friends with his friend. Here, perhaps, the physical relationship between you and your husband's best friend does not feel natural. This relationship has filled the lack of emotional attachment in your married life that you did not experience. A monotonous marriage with a husband or a monotonous marriage with him, which you describe here, is equally a big concern and a possible cause. Although you may forget what happened to you, here it seems that you and your husband should behave like a couple in the relationship. It is a good thing that you love your husband and want to make everything right. It is also a good idea to involve your husband in balancing this. However, you have to decide whether you want to go ahead with the marriage or not, and be prepared to face any situation that comes your way.