The relationship between parents and children is changing with the changing times. Children used to watch their parents standing at a distance for a long time. There was no opportunity to know what was happening in their lives. As a result, he understood as much as he could. But now this distance has been bridged. Many parents bond with their children like friends. Becoming a child’s ‘best friend’ is the latest parenting trend.
But psychologists say, even in that case, it is important to take some general precautions. Parents should be careful before sharing what kind of words with children? Let’s find out.
১। Adults often say ‘I can’t take it anymore’, or ‘it doesn’t make sense to live like this’ in the exhaustion of everyday life. If they say such things even in the guise of play, many times it causes mental stress in the case of the child. He doesn’t have the same understanding of adults’ feelings, so he suffers from insecurities.
২। It is better not to discuss financial difficulties with the child. Knowing that the family’s financial condition is not good, it can cause fear in the social context. He may think himself inferior compared to others. One can also choose unfair ways to earn money.
৩। If there is a rift between the parents, it should never be discussed directly with the child. As much as necessary can be said, as much as it is possible for him to understand. Or the ignorant boy or girl will become a victim of mental illness.
৪। Every family goes through different tensions at different times. Family secrets should not be discussed with minor children. Adults may have overcome the setbacks of the incident, but it can leave a deep scar in a child’s mind.
৫। Do not impose on the child in advance who is good and who is bad among adults. Instead, give him an opportunity to understand who is good or bad by looking at people’s characteristics. Maybe the grown man who is treating you well, is not treating your baby.
৬। Maybe the father or the mother did not fully support the birth of the child. Or the parents feel themselves unsuccessful in parenting. Care must be taken in sharing such information with children. If he thinks that he is unwanted and neglected, he can choose the path of suicide, say psychologists!
Children’s mental structure is more immature than that of adults. It is the responsibility of the parent not to start hating the parents instead of understanding them. Parents are not Gods, but human beings of flesh and blood – this education should be the first priority in becoming a child’s friend.
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