according to osho Love is not a relationship, a compromise or making someone yours. Love is an inner state in which a person gives freedom to another and accepts his existence.
In their view, love which has a lot of fear, possessiveness, jealousy and expectation is often more than just love. Attachment It becomes.
difference between love and infatuation
If we understand Osho's thoughts simply:
Moha says: “You are mine.”
Prem says: “You are free.”
A person in attachment is afraid of losing the other person. That's why he wants to control the other person. Love consists of the ability to accept the freedom of another person.
Is love always true?
According to Osho, the possibility of love is always present within humans, but what we think of as love is not necessarily love.
Many times we say-
“I can't live without you.”
It sounds like love, but it dependency May be hidden.
Prem says:
“I want to be with you, but I won't make you the only reason for my happiness.”
Why no rights in love?
When authority gets combined with love then the person starts saying-
- You just stay with me.
- You don't talk to anyone else.
- You follow my wishes.
- You can't leave me.
Here love can gradually turn into fear and control.
According to Osho, there should be no attempt to change the other person in love. love means to another The ability to see and accept things as they are.
Why does jealousy come in love?
Behind jealousy there is often a fear of loss.
If there is a fear within the person that “if he gets close to someone else, my happiness will end”, then it means that his happiness has become completely dependent on the other person.
In Osho's view, the deeper the love, the more it freedom and awareness She comes.
love first arises within oneself
In Osho's teachings, love is not seen as something that comes from outside. When a person is calm, aware and happy from within, then his love does not become a burden on others.
Then the person does not say this to the other-
“Make me happy.”
Rather it comes from within him-
“I am happy, so I want to share my happiness with you.”
This is the big difference between love and dependence.
Don't get lost in love, find yourself
In true love a person does not lose his identity. He can remain himself even while living with others.
Therefore, love does not mean that two people become completely dependent on each other. Rather, love means that Two free people can live with each other while maintaining their independence.
Essence of Osho's thoughts
Understand Osho's vision of love in one line:
“Where there is authority, there can be less love and more fear; where there is freedom, love can blossom.”
So if you want to know whether your crush is really love or infatuation, ask yourself three questions:
Can I let the other person be free?
Wouldn't my existence and happiness completely end without him?
Do I try to understand him instead of trying to change him?
If the answers to these questions gradually Yes If this starts happening, then your relationship is moving in a more healthy and conscious direction than love.