Father’s Day: ‘Papa never cries’… But what really? The pain of Indian men burdened with responsibilities

When is Father’s Day: It is true that tears or crying are a reaction to our emotions, but it is equally true that tears come more quickly in women. They cry easily and express their emotions, but men express their emotions less than women.

Papa or any other man in the society does not cry or it is difficult for him to cry even when he is going through a very emotional phase in his life. After all, what is the reason for this, its reason can be both social and scientific.

Crying is very important. This reduces stress and emotional distress. Crying in pain makes the mind and heart feel lighter. This is also a big aspect for good physical and mental health, but men usually control their emotions even after losing their loved ones like parents etc. They do not want anyone to see them crying.

What do our tears tell us?

In any difficult situation, a man may not cry in front of everyone, but he cries quietly when alone or in front of his most important or trusted person. Crying indicates that we are feeling powerful emotions. Our tears contain a chemical called oxytocin, which works to increase emotional bonding. But men especially don’t want people to see them crying, so most have learned to control it. This sends the message that men are emotionally void or more rigid.

Father learns ‘not to cry’ since childhood

Men learn from their childhood through the environment around them that ‘women cry but not men’. Their brain also assimilates this and then starts reacting in the same way in every situation. But this is dangerous for their mental health.

The parts of our brain that feel powerful emotions function and allow us to deal with them, but if we have conditioned our brains since childhood to believe that men don’t cry, then those parts of the brain stop responding to emotions the way they do. This has a very bad effect on mental health.

Common reasons for suppressing emotions

• childhood conditioning

As we grow up, our behavior also becomes social. We look at our family, friends and elders and then we learn social behavior through observation and learn to suppress our emotions by observing the men around us.

• expectations of society

In our society crying is considered a sign of weakness. Because of this thinking, men are unable to express their feelings – Especially sadness or sadness – Crying is prevented from expressing. If it is ignored for a long time, unresolved emotions start taking over.

• difficult situation

Many times in life we ​​have to face situations which are very stressful and beyond our control. In such situations, especially when it comes to family or loved ones, men do not express their feelings and hide their feelings in an attempt to give courage and support to the people around them.

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• low emotional intelligence

People who are not aware of their feelings or are unable to express them often suppress their feelings. These suppressed emotions later come out in the form of anger and frustration. Often people get angry at others, become violent or start behaving inappropriately.