What is the name of being tied to the eighth page in love? How much do we do to maintain any relationship! Compromise, accept, even change ourselves when necessary. But in this cycle of adaptation, we lose our own existence at some point. Sacrificing one's self at the cost of one-sided efforts and constant silence can never be love. According to psychologists, people often fall into this trap unknowingly very slowly. You are not losing yourself in this exhausting battle to save the relationship! How do you understand?
First of all, The desire to speak one's mind slowly dies. The desire to share anything other than casual talk with the partner goes away by itself. Not only that. Many began to hide their opinions to avoid confusion. Suppressing the truths that might upset your partner's mood becomes a habit. Turmoil may be avoided for a moment, but after repeatedly swallowing the words of the mind, one can no longer recognize one's own voice!
secondly, Distance from one's beloved relationships begins to form. Reconciliation in a relationship is normal, but forgetting your loved ones is not. If the friends you used to hang out with or the hobbies you enjoyed start to get lost in the rush of relationships, it's dangerous. In a life that revolves only around one's partner, one's individuality is gradually lost.
thirdly, Standing in the mirror and feeling like a stranger. Without any specific incident or disaster, a deep emptiness often forms in the mind. One's smile, one's cheerfulness or self-confidence—everything begins to fade. If the eyes become dim while searching for the answer to the question of what is left to call one's separate self, then you will understand that the rupture has actually spread far inside.
fourthly, Do you spend the day managing your partner's mood all the time? Guessing your partner's mind before entering the room, thinking a thousand times before speaking, and keeping all your own feelings aside and just keeping your partner's mind are not signs of a healthy relationship. Maintaining the mood of others by suppressing one's own emotions or fatigue is a form of mental slavery.
fifthly, Are you covering up your partner's unfair behavior as an excuse? To blame your partner for being hurt by saying 'he's under a lot of stress' or 'it was my fault' is actually insulting yourself. By enduring again and again, people lower their expectations, which is the equivalent of erasing their existence.
Any healthy relationship cultivates love. Healthy relationships grow. So before you give in to the pull of love, stop once. It's important to save the relationship, but it's not worth the effort to wipe yourself out.